How do you overcome fear and take action on your dreams?
If it were simple to overcome fear, I’d like to think that we’d all be happy, holding hands and singing kumbayah.
That’s its purpose; it’s a survival mechanism. That’s really its only function.
Its job isn’t to make us more prosperous, help us find peace, or feel loved. Its primary function is protection.
And, like an overprotective parent, our minds may have beautiful intentions. But if we keep listening to it, it’ll drive us crazy, and we won’t live up to our highest potential.
And, it gets worse.
This overprotective parent of a mind thinks the only way to protect us is by fully controlling us. It wants to be in the driver’s seat.
How can it do that?
By having us believe that our mind IS our life and that we and it are the same. Most people haven’t created a separation between that fear-based voice in their heads and themselves.
It’s fascinating to me that people talk about wanting to make a big difference in the world and other people’s lives. Even their own lives.
But experience shows that’s as far as it goes. Fear and anxiety about the demands of today take over and we never get around to creating the future we desperately want.
To overcome fear and make a real difference, you have to take real action in the real world. And the same goes for success.
You can’t do that if your life is based on fear and your mind is stuck in worry, and you continuously have doubts.
We need to get to a place where that fear-based, problem-based mind doesn’t control us anymore. And to do that I put together these 4 easy tips to overcome fear and take action on your dreams.
1. Stop blaming fear
Stop thinking that the reason why you’re not getting ahead has anything to do with fear in the first place. As a society, we give fear far too much credit.
Remember what I told you about our mind, that’s its primary function is to protect us. Real fear is imminent and right in your face.
Most of the fear we experience is just lurking in the shadows of our minds. Basically, it’s just poor management of our thoughts.
Real fear is imminent. It’s right in your face. Most of the fear we experience is just poor management of our thoughts.
That’s helpful to know to overcome fear.
When faced with a choice, we ask ourselves, “What if [insert a negative statement]?” For example: What if it’s a waste of money? What if she says, “no”? What if I lose everything I worked so hard for?
In those cases, we blame the fear of the unknown.
What we really need to do, instead, is ask “What if [followed by a positive statement]?”
What if this really works out?
What if she says, “yes”?
What if I actually start getting what I deserve?
The reality is fear isn’t usually the thing holding us back. It’s the lack of connection with something bigger than the fear.
How does a soldier run into harm’s way to save a fallen soldier?
How does a firefighter run into a burning building?
While these are people in the line of duty, if you Google “extraordinary examples of courage,” you will see countless men and women around the world putting themselves at risk to save others.
It’s not they don’t feel fear. Fear is always present. They just have a commitment bigger than the fear.
Many of you probably want to start an online business or personal brand. Some of you probably want to create videos or send out emails. But you don’t because you think someone is going to make fun of you, or nobody’s going to watch it. Or perhaps you feel unqualified.
But that’s not really a fear, right? You have a camera in front of you. And the only thing in between you and pressing that record button… is what? It’s just air.
That’s not fear. There’s no fear preventing me from reaching around the camera and pressing the record button.
There might be a story. A “What if [insert a negative statement]?”
If you feel that there really is fear, finish this statement.
I want _______________, but I haven’t gone for it because __________________.
Write and be very clear with your answers. Understand what it is that’s really holding you back and then answer this:
To overcome this fear or challenge, I would have to: ________________.
(e.g., attend a course, contact so and so for advice, pay off my credit cards.)
2. Overcome fear by taking action daily
Fear tends to dissipate with daily action. In psychology, there’s something called a “Confidence-Competence” loop.
The confidence-competence loop states the better you get at something or more action you take, the more confident you become.
So if your goal is to create passive income through blogging, the more you write, the more you associate yourself with other bloggers, the better you become.
And that builds confidence.
Taking action is all about creating habits. Take a goal that you want to achieve within the next 12 months, and create 3 tasks a day spending an hour each day completing those tasks.
After 365 hours, you should have successfully established that confidence-competence loop.
If you want a tool to help you focus on the habits you want to create, download this Habit Tracker worksheet.
3. Know what you want
I speak to a lot of people about money and goals. Smart and successful people would sit across from me and tell me they really haven’t given much thought as to what they want out of life.
Their only real goal was to graduate college and get a good job to pay off their student loans. And now that they’ve achieved that, they feel like they’re going through the motions and trying to make it to Friday.
That’s just bullsh*t. I don’t want that life for any of you.
What do you really want out of life?
This is an important question because I want you to start seeing something bigger. I’m talking about something massive for your life.
I’m not talking about making more money, eating healthy, or renovating your kitchen. And I’m not talking about signing on ten new customers this month.
I’m talking about what you really want.
So ask yourself, what do you want?
Do you want to lose weight? Triple your income? Do you want to start a non-profit? Do you want to find love?
You know what it is. So what is it?
Don’t over analyze it. Just pick something. The problem people have is that they don’t choose.
The truth is getting what you want is simple. Go onto Amazon, and you will most likely find a dozen or so books on the topic.
You can follow somebody that’s already done it (like me) and follow in their footsteps. You have all the resources you need to achieve anything you want.
4. Just do it
All day long, we have ideas that could change our lives. They could change the world and the way that we feel.
What do most people do with them? Absolutely nothing.
In fact, the first decision that most people make is hitting that snooze button in the morning. And I get it. It’s warm and comfortable under those sheets. And if you’re lucky, you have somebody that you love next to you.
Here’s what you need to know. In any area of your life that you want to change, you are never going to feel like it. Never.
You’re never going to feel like jumping on the treadmill or lifting those weights.
You’re never going to feel like saving money.
And you’re never going to feel like putting those ideas onto paper and sharing it with the world on your blog or on YouTube.
When you become an adult, nobody tells you that it’s now your job to parent yourself. It’s your job to make yourself do the crap you don’t want to do so that you can be everything you’re supposed to be.
Nobody’s coming. Motivation isn’t happening.
Instead try this, tomorrow. Set your alarm an hour earlier. And when that alarm goes off, throw off your sheets, and stand up. Start your day.
No snooze button. No delay.
Just do it, and you’ll come face to face with the physical force required to change your behavior, and probably your life.
What’s interesting about being an adult is that when you become eighteen, nobody tells you that it’s now your job to parent yourself. That it’s your job to make yourself do the crap you don’t want to do so that you can be everything you’re supposed to be.
It’s straightforward to get what you want. It’s just not easy.
You have to force yourself.